Our flaws and how we perceive them, it’s a topic I’ve wanted to discuss on the site for some time now. We live in a society where idealistic perfection is always in front of our faces. It’s difficult not to feel the weight of expectation and begin to question our own personality and appearance. But we shouldn’t–what we view as flaws, aren’t such at all. Instead of looking at imperfections as downfalls now is the time to embrace them.
Many of the most beautiful things in the world are those that are blemished. Crystals, the Universe, even the Japanese art of Kintsugi are perfectly imperfect. They represent a unique beauty, one not much different than what we carry in our souls and on our bodies. This uniqueness is a gift. It allows you to stand out in a crowd, rise to greatness and helps you BE you. What you see as a flaw in yourself is seen as an incredibly desirable characteristic by others. Just think, not long ago freckles were viewed as a quirky feature, now they’re a major sign of beauty (duh).
Once you realize this, you can work towards embracing your flaws by building self-confidence. The Japanese have an awesome way of looking at it. It’s called Wabi-sabi, and it’s basically their belief in the acceptance of imperfection. It’s focused on an aesthetic appreciation for such things as asymmetry, texture irregularities, simplicity, modesty and a few other characteristics. Finding this appreciation and acceptance within yourself allows you to wash away the thought of judgement and instead focus on a healthy self-esteem that you can carry with you throughout life.
Strong self-confidence comes from celebrating yourself, your individuality. So I propose taking a moment to write down your favorite features–don’t worry about sounding conceded–there is never any shame in self-love. And then keeping this list handy for later review. Remember each of our paths in life are completely different. This is on purpose. Without individuality, rarity and diverse interests, life would be pretty boring.
What are your thoughts on the topic?