Have you seen my latest video, How to Build Self Confidence? In it I talk about how confidence comes from within—you don’t need anyone else to make you feel confidence; it’s all about your mindset. Today I want to share a similar topic, empowerment, that is so important for women to harness everyday. Empowerment is a product of confidence. When you feel confident in who you are, you have a sense that you can really do whatever you set out to do—and that’s huge when you’ve got a dream to chase. The key to success is believing that you have the power to make it happen.
There are many things I want to accomplish every day, and a lot of new things I still want to try. The little tricks below are great reminders for when I need that push. Check them out below and don’t forget to watch my video if you haven’t.
Start with body language.
Have you seen the TED Talk where Amy Cuddy explains how body language connects to power? If you’re the one slouching, arms folded, at the back of the class, perhaps it’s not because you have bad posture—but you feel unconfident. Even if you don’t know all the answers, adopt powerful positions with your body—like putting your hands on your hips instead of folding your arms—for an instant boost of confidence. Her study showed that in two minutes, your confidence can change, you’ll be more likely to take risks, and even hormone levels change. Her motto is “fake it ‘til you make it” because we’re all capable of great things, we just have to think we can do it. Sounds crazy, but it really works.
Harness your strengths.
Letting your strengths shine is a huge step in empowerment, especially in a world often focused on weakness. Discover which areas you excel in—even if they seem small to you, they could be huge to someone else—and harness them. If you have a hobby, but you’re not an expert, use that passion as a basis. Never stop learning. You never know what you may turn into a career! ;)
Bring out the best in YOU.
Yes, I love to experiment with beauty, but at the end of the day, a classic routine that focuses on my best features makes me feel confident. For some, standing out from the crowd gives them a boost of confidence. Others don’t wear makeup at all. So when you need to feel empowered, like having an important meeting or giving a speech, go with what empowers you. The same goes for your clothes, and other things you do to bring your inner self outward. That way, you won’t go into something not feeling like yourself, which brings me to…
Remember that the best person you can be is yourself.
At the end of the day, you may not get a call back for all jobs you apply to, or get in to every school you want. Know that if you presented a genuine portrait of yourself to the world, you did everything right. If you did that and still don’t get the results you want, it probably wasn’t the best fit for you anyway. Who would want to be in a situation where they don’t feel comfortable being their natural self?
When is a time that you felt truly empowered? Share your story below! And in case you missed it, you can see my post on self-esteem here.
Photo: Doutzen Kroes Vogue Netherlands September 2013
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